#10 A power you possess!

There is this thing about me doing things on my will but not by force. Silly example, I don’t like to be forced to wake up early, like my mom or sister telling me you should wake up early tomorrow. If I am told to set the alarm, I’m going to wake up every hour thinking ‘It’s time! It’s time!’ and lose my sleep and it continues to be a mad morning. Usually, I burst out showing my irritation, and make others upset too. To note, this behavior of mine happens only at home, so I am safer. However upsetting my family is not a healthy way at all. It takes the time to get back to a better environment after the mess I make. Today I stayed silent. Silence is what saved me today from an outburst or a bad repercussion. Even my family was fine, though they might not have noticed that I stayed silent and not disturbed them with my annoyance, I felt happy inside.

This is not the first instance, I have been trying to practice this for quite some time by staying silent when I’m mad or bad mood. Some days I could stay silent and some days I forget about it and get in a bad mood. I will get there soon 🙂

Where else did this silence help me? Okay, let me go through that.

  • The silence between the gaps while talking to others, allows me to digest what I said and discover what I want to say next at that moment. Trust me, this allowed me to emerge from the unknown into self-finding.
  • Staying silent while others are talking, enabled be to be a better active listener. It helps me to absorb what the person is saying and understand it better.
  • While doing meditation, I understand the power of silence. I discover myself. The silence offers me personal growth. It heals me.
  • When someone close to me gives a sarcastic statement hurting my feelings especially when they are in bad mood, I simply stay silent. Because, counter talk is not going to help the other person or me instead it leads the way to a bad relationship.
  • If someone is bitching about another person whom I know, I stay silent. This gives a hint to the other person not to do that again or at least they will get to know that I am not interested. It’s not a good habit to talk badly about others in their absence. If you stay silent, you are not encouraging that bad habit. Isn’t it good?
  • Once I have finished with my opinion or proposal, I shut up, so that I don’t distract the other person from what they want to say. It applies to your business world too, once you finished with your thoughts in a meeting allow others to speak, stay silent, note down your thoughts.
  • Silence is also a way of communication. Sometimes I have used silence to express what I think.

Silence is a communication from the outer to the inner. Your concentration power increases and you could focus consistently. You could stay out of trouble. It is not just about peace or calm, it is the power your possess. There is so much about silence, hold on to this powerful weapon, you will discover more and more about yourself.

Closing with powerful quotes:

Work hard in Silence, Let success be your noise – Frank Ocean

Nothing strengthens authority so much as Silence – Leonardo Da Vinci

The word LISTEN contains the same letters as the word SILENT– Alfred Brendel

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#4 Best 5 ways to kill your dreams. Are you interested?

I am a very serious TED Talk follower. Very serious (trust me, when I write this my eyes are really wide like I am watching something very scary) to the level that most of my posts does not go without tagging a supporting TED Talk video for my thoughts. Surprising fact is that I am able to find one. Can you believe that you get to listen to life changing ideas and speeches under 6 minutes? yes, believe it.

One of such talk is what I am going to share today which is 5 best ways to kill your dreams. Yep, you read it right, it is killing your dream. We all have gone through people saying to a winner that he got lucky or look at his overnight success, without considering the years and years of efforts he/she had put in to become a winner. That’s the speaker’s first point in her talk.

Second, she talks about how we are influenced by others while making our own decision. This second step, is about reiterating the fact that it is ‘You’ at the end of the day, who is responsible for the decision you make, either influenced or following other’s instruction. It will be ‘You’ and ‘You’.

Third, she talks about ‘okay is never okay’, we need to be great. When we achieve our long term goal, what happens next, you take that success, learnings, and experiences and put them into your next project. It’s definitely going to add to your next success and you will notice that you are not going to settle for little.

Fourth, it is more like the second tip, being responsible for the decisions you make, likewise, you are accountable for your own actions, blaming others for you not being able to put an additional effort is not going to make your goal success, rather it is going to sit there and watch you whine.

Fifth, dreams themselves. Dream what you want to achieve, dream your success and when you feed your dreams more and more with your hard work, you are going to be happy. I’m sure all of us want to be happy, then dream your victory and work towards it.

If you are asking what are those 5 steps to kill, in Speaker’s words:-

So, five tips: Believe in overnight success, believe someone else has the answers for you, believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down, believe the fault is someone else’s, and believe that only the goals themselves matter. Believe me, if you do that, you will destroy your dreams.

Here I am presenting to you, one of the interesting Ted Talk by Bel Pesche, an Entrepreneur.