A Firefighter! ‘4 min read’

There was a fighter named Mark who works at a fire company as a volunteer fighter and also works at a different company for paid job. As you all know that firefighters should arrive at the scene as early as possible or may not be possible, but they got to get early at the scene. This firefighter, Mark, was an assistant captain and he had a forerunner in that voluntary position who gets to do things first on the assignments. There was a fire accident at a house reported and the fire company arrived at the scene putting off the fire. The first volunteer approached the captain for orders and Mark got their 5 seconds later which means that the first volunteer gets inside the house before Mark.  The captain was having a serious conversation with the house owner who was standing outside in pajamas and barefoot in the midnight watching her house burning in flames and she cries “oh! my dear dog”. The captain commands the first volunteer to save the dog from the fire, Mark missed his chance of saving the dog because he was 5 seconds late but he is next for captain’s command. The captain calls Mark and asks him to get inside the house and bring a pair of shoes for the house owner. While they both walked past the fire where the other fighters were pretty much done putting off the fire, they both brought the treasures (the dog and pair of shoes). Everyone was happy and praising the first volunteer for saving a life. With disappointment of not getting a chance to save that dog but to bring shoes, he handed it over to the house owner.

After a week, the house owner writes a letter to the department thanking the team for the effort they put in saving her home. The house owner was so kind that she mentioned above all others that someone even got her pair of shoes from the burning house.

Here is the lesson Mark comment on this situation. He has seen act of kindness at many levels and this is one of the example he had seen in his experience and he says everything matters including those pair of shoes.

What a strike it is!! Everything matters!  And it’s very true! Whether its saving a dog or shoes, it all matters.

We always want a chance to do something that we think or have our own definition for what matters and what doesn’t, right? Mark was a volunteer who was waiting for a chance to be the savior and he thought saving shoes is not an act of a savior. But…. for someone it matters.

We often tell people that once I make $100,000 I will be able to help homeless. Once I start earning I would be able to help who is in need. We always wait to make that millions to help someone. The fact is…. you don’t have to wait to make that millions to make a difference in someone’s life. If you have something to give, don’t wait but give it now. There are many ways to help the needy, it’s not only the money that can help.

You can serve people at old age homes or you can be a mentor by sharing your knowledge or you can teach at voluntary education centers or you can help clean your neighborhood park, there are many such ways to make a difference as an individual. Remember, not to wait!

“A simple act of kindness can matter millions to someone” – VE

 

Have a great week friends! See you all next tuesday!
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My Dad Is Not A SuperMan!

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This post is a tribute to my dad on this Father’s Day. This is my very first attempt on sketching a portrait and he is my dad ☺

My dad is not a superman but he is the man who taught me that you can live your life being humble. He is the man who taught me to make use of what is available and be excellent. He taught me whatever work you commit to, do it with passion and never give up. He taught me to be loyal. I have also seen my dad how protective he becomes when he thinks of this world for his daughters to survive, yet he gave us freedom what is needed for us. My dad was the source of income to our family. We are 3 daughters to my parents. In the country I was born and in those days, people do not welcome parents with girl child. Because, girl parents have too many obligations and the society draws restrictions as well as expectations, if it’s a girl. It is seen as a burden to the society and the parents. To my parents we 3 are girls, Wow! You wouldn’t believe if I say even my dad’s parents once hated that we 3 are girls. Until this date I have never seen my mom or dad complain about this. I know this may not seem a big deal but those were the days when abortion of girl fetus and killing of girl child were very common. I have known parents who have abandoned their own baby or child because she is a girl.

For this reason, I owe my dad. He gave me this life to live. He never complained or worried that we 3 are girls.

My dad was the proprietor of a civil construction company  and he being the source of income to my family never showed attitude towards my mom or anyone. He was not demanding and had no attitude even to his employees. He never said no to left-over food at home. He taught us the value of food and never allowed us to waste food even if it does not taste yum. He mentions be thankful that you have food to eat when there are so many children and family out there dying of hunger. We enjoyed sleeping on the cozy bed while my dad sleeps on the floor. He says that you can have luxury in life but never allow it rule you. He taught us how to be of service for the needy. Helping others is his never ending activity and wouldn’t worry even if it leaves him empty handed. He is a living proof to show kindness to everyone.

I have never seen my dad break down when there was a loss in his business, likewise my dad never become overwhelmed when he made profit. He taught us to live a balanced life. He is a relentless hardworking man and till date he is. His impeccable faith in God gives him will power to withstand any life storm. We look up to him.

I could not stop myself from mentioning that he gave us education, he made us all earn Master’s degree. My first sibling is an MBA graduate and my second sibling is double Master’s graduate (MBA + Masters in Social Work) and I graduated this year with MBA degree. He paid for our entire education and we know how much he struggled to do this for us. We are forever grateful to you Dad.

There were days that I have been arrogant to him, but he never gave up on me. His love and affection for me never changed. I love my dad as much as I love my mom.

My dad taught us to be self-determined while my mom taught us to be strong. I adore my dad and respect him to the moon and back. The lessons and values from my dad are the treasures and assets to my life.

My dad is a not a superman but he is my DAD and he is above all. Love you forever Dad ❤
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Vision of life! ‘3 min read’

Have you ever wondered why do we feel frustrated quickly and take a long time to come out of that mood? Why does failure hit us like a tornado in life? Why do we take each silly disappointment too personally? Why do we get so defensive if someone questions you out of no-where? It even makes you to snap at them saying you have no rights. Psychologists say that such behavior are as a result of lacking confidence in ourselves. I have been through this in my life too. But why do we lack confidence?  I did find the answer and that is

     ———————–I DON’T KNOW WHO I WANT TO BE——————

True, being yourself, is one thing and being yourself like what, is another thing. If you don’t know who you want to become, it is very simple you can’t become one except for one thing, you will lack confidence. Julia_Gillard_2010

If Julia Eileen Gillard had not dreamt of becoming a prime minister, she could not have achieved the success of becoming the first and to-date only woman prime minister of Australia. If she had not constantly tried and stood for elections she could not have been elected. Of Course, all this did not happen overnight. She started her political aspirations when she was in her second year at the university, almost at the age of 20. It is not easy to hold a top level position; it takes lot of confidence to be with.

There are many times in life that you would not know what you want to be, who you want to become, that’s when frustration enters. People who are successful in life did know who they want to be and anytime they face failure they are back up quickly because they are determinant to who they want to become. When there are disappointments in life, successful people would be able to move on quickly because they have a goal and they don’t have time to mourn over what happened in the past. How can they do it? It is their mind and it helps them to do it. Their mind constantly reminds them about it. Well if their mind is reminding them that means they are feeding their minds with that thought. Mind will not act on its own. It will respond with what you feed into it. If you cannot train or program your mind to think what you want it to think, it’s easy to give up in life.

Here’s when CONSISTENCY plays a role. You need to be consistent in aspiring what you want to be. If you want to lose some pounds, you need to be consistent in working out. If you want to be a speaker, you need to be consistent in preparing yourself by reading materials, joining training sessions and by consistently practice speaking. If you are married, be consistent to love your partner. There is a famous adage, success does not happen overnight. That’s true very true, it needs consistency.

I tried the following and I still do this:-

  1. Write down who you want to become? (Example: I want to be early riser, I want to be committed to my goal, I want to be a person who keep up my words and so on)
  2. Determine what you need to do… to become that person?

Now start practicing it every day and be consistent in doing what you have planned to do so.

Being consistent develops confidence. If you are confident, there is going to be nothing that stops you from reaching your goals. Don’t you agree with me? What do you do at the time of frustration? Please share your thoughts with us.

In my next post, I’m going to share what is that one ingredient that helped me with consistency 🙂 See you next Tuesday!homewaredesigns (1)

#7 The road that leads to home

What do you feel when you see the road leading to home? the Sense of content isn’t it? Happiness? Oh! Good Lord, I’m home. When you are back from a hectic day at work? When you return from long vacation? When you are back from school? When you return from a blast party? When you return from an event? When you go home from the airport? When you return home after a sleepover night at friend’s place? When you return from a hospital? It goes on. You finally want to return home. 

All of us like to go home. Some rush to home. Although we were at a place which was fun-filled, or on duty, or on purpose, or on break, or under compulsion, we all return home no matter what, no matter how long it takes and no matter how far we are. Because it is your place, it is where you belong and you feel safe at home. Exaccccttttlyyy…That is how you are going to feel when you return to humanity.

We are moving away from humanity when we stop caring what happens to anything or anyone. We are witnessing the loss of humanity when a life is taken brutally by ISIS or other such terrorist groups, there is loss of humanity when there has been a rape and murder, we lose humanity when women trafficking grows, we lose humanity when there is a war, humanity is lost even when you steal something that does not belong to you. We are heading towards a bizarre future. Humanitarianism is essential in the modern world. Everything can be felt possible in this today’s world. They are fast approaching and brilliant. The neuroscientists are trying to implement the humanity to a computer. It has become necessary that a robot needs humanity when we humans are losing it.  

Why would a robot or a computer need humanity uploaded while we, the originals of humanity are losing it? How is it that a situation is different when it happens to others and not you? When your neighbor’s kid was kidnapped and sold for women traffic, how is that we remain silent? Why is that we do not do anything when a child is dying from hunger?

Why are we not bothered? Is it because it’s not your child who is affected? It’s not your son who is killed in gun violence? It’s not your daughter who is not sold for women traffic? It’s time we need to return to humanity, it’s time we realize this and start using our constitutional rights of speech. When there is a need to spread awareness, please spread the awareness. When you can feed a child, please walk down to that child and feed. I know you cannot do it alone, so join those thousand others who are doing it. Please do not try to hand your responsibility to others. Remember you are those others to others. Help the nation to form a right system that supports humanity. Every life matters. Try to be part of any group that helps to support humanity. 2015-15-10--20-53-37

Do not wait until it happens in your own home. Let’s make the road towards humanity.One simple thought,  ‘think it’s your home which is hostile, you will be moved towards action’.

Please return to humanity

#3 That one word I missed!

Our life is all about words, what we say & what we read.Missing one word can lead to a huge misunderstanding, even to a war; sometimes humiliation; sometimes it can bring out some terrific funny moments.

Well, finding the right words to express what you mean is a type of human Intelligence which is known as Linguistic, if that intelligence misses a word. What happens??? See below 🙂

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This is how I read one of the Facebook post in my timeline, and I was wondering, how could a person can possibly have fun to keep an alarm for the next day, I thought to myself may be a self-determined person like me 😉 See the picture below:

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Yes! The word ‘NOT’ was missing in the previous picture. I read it again to realize I just missed one word and I already had series of thoughts about that sentence which I read it incorrect. I do this most of the times, today I thought, Wow! this is not right. I do not want to be a person who gives that wrong information.

We tend to miss words while reading or writing which changes the whole meaning. Those little importance or extra seconds that we scarce is what leading us to miscommunication. While sending a text message, right before you click on send button, just look at your message, take that extra second that will save you from humiliation or misunderstanding. When you send an email, take that extra second to read your email again, it might even help you to reduce more email chains, than to write another apology email saying ‘Ignore the previous email or sorry, please find the corrected email’. I know it happens at work don’t they? Human errors are natural and acceptable mostly but it cannot be a defaulter, like repeating it again and again.

Will you accept if a Doctor misses a critical word in a diagnosis that leads to a different medication and there after side effects or loss of life? I really wanted to quote this example, to show the importance in any message that we exchange, it might be a lifesaving. While at work or among friends, it can be any place, I’m sure that little perfection is not going to take you off from fun 🙂

Some of us are already taking those extra seconds, and some of us are ignoring that importance. Hope we don’t ignore anymore.

See the verse written in the holy book, ‘Bible’ under the title ‘The Word Became Flesh’ – ( John 1:1-2)

1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 2 He was with God in the beginning.

Happy Not Missing that one word, can be any 😉