The Driving Factor! ‘3 min read’

As promised here is my next post to ‘Vision of life

I have observed whenever I make a resolution or commit to a work, I will be on that sprint of mood to finish it right away and I will be able to finish it too, because I will be on fire to get things done. I will be happy and feel accomplished once it’s done and I will even ask for more work like such. Well, all these in the case of small commitments 😀

What happens to me when it’s something that takes time even longer like a yearly resolution. First day I will be super active, second day I will be active but not like the first day and I will get through the first week this way. Eventually that sprint of mood I mentioned earlier, I will almost forget that word. I will reach that state of ‘It’s okay’, It’s okay I have time, I will do it tomorrow and I will be queen of procrastination the next 2 days. The third day I will be guilty of being queen 😦

Again I will become conscious and become active. Even if I am not truly active, I will make sure I will motivate myself and get me into action and  I will say Yay!!!. This will continue for good 2 weeks. This goes on and on until the deadline of the challenge I accepted meaning the resolution I took. I have been in these days. I have been in these years. I am over it! I am glad I found ways to succeed. In my other article What happens to you after your ‘Success’? ,I had written about not making yearly resolution as #101 trick.

Like me, there are many out there who have found their ways to kill procrastination and get into action. There are still many who wants help and tricks to get that driving factor to be consistent. Not all the tasks or resolutions we commit to are small to finish off quickly. Like I said earlier, some takes time even longer like a yearly resolution. Like the day passes that mood fades too. It is easy to make a decision or a resolution when you are in that mood.  You see an inspiring video about working out in the morning and you make up your mind that you are going to work out every morning. That mood may last one minute or a day or a month. Once you lose that mood, you cannot do what you had planned to do. That’s how people fail in their resolution. That’s when the resolution becomes repeated and never ending. That’s when feeling frustration enters and you will get to say yeah I know this will not work out. You will easily give up and that definitely is not helping you to be consistent.

The key is “Like”. You need to like what you do.  You are the one who made that decision or commitment, so you better start liking it and continue liking it more.

Imagine if you don’t like a book after reading first 2 pages, it is better that you stop wasting more time in that book and pick a different book that keeps you interested. You can’t do the same for your resolution, you can’t change it every now and then. When you can love the same person and be in relationship with that same person for many decades. You can certainly develop the liking towards what you do even if it’s difficult. If you read my article on Love at first sight.Really??? you will understand what I mean by liking it and continue liking it more.

Start liking what you do.

The secret to happiness is not in doing what one like, but in LIKING what one does – James M.Barrie

If in case you are not in mood, do things you like that is quick and start feeling accomplished by doing them. When you get that sense of achievement, you would want to do more to achieve more. The more you achieve the more you want to do.

#102 Trick: That’s why they say do your bed when you wake up so you start your day with accomplishment.

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Vision of life! ‘3 min read’

Have you ever wondered why do we feel frustrated quickly and take a long time to come out of that mood? Why does failure hit us like a tornado in life? Why do we take each silly disappointment too personally? Why do we get so defensive if someone questions you out of no-where? It even makes you to snap at them saying you have no rights. Psychologists say that such behavior are as a result of lacking confidence in ourselves. I have been through this in my life too. But why do we lack confidence?  I did find the answer and that is

     ———————–I DON’T KNOW WHO I WANT TO BE——————

True, being yourself, is one thing and being yourself like what, is another thing. If you don’t know who you want to become, it is very simple you can’t become one except for one thing, you will lack confidence. Julia_Gillard_2010

If Julia Eileen Gillard had not dreamt of becoming a prime minister, she could not have achieved the success of becoming the first and to-date only woman prime minister of Australia. If she had not constantly tried and stood for elections she could not have been elected. Of Course, all this did not happen overnight. She started her political aspirations when she was in her second year at the university, almost at the age of 20. It is not easy to hold a top level position; it takes lot of confidence to be with.

There are many times in life that you would not know what you want to be, who you want to become, that’s when frustration enters. People who are successful in life did know who they want to be and anytime they face failure they are back up quickly because they are determinant to who they want to become. When there are disappointments in life, successful people would be able to move on quickly because they have a goal and they don’t have time to mourn over what happened in the past. How can they do it? It is their mind and it helps them to do it. Their mind constantly reminds them about it. Well if their mind is reminding them that means they are feeding their minds with that thought. Mind will not act on its own. It will respond with what you feed into it. If you cannot train or program your mind to think what you want it to think, it’s easy to give up in life.

Here’s when CONSISTENCY plays a role. You need to be consistent in aspiring what you want to be. If you want to lose some pounds, you need to be consistent in working out. If you want to be a speaker, you need to be consistent in preparing yourself by reading materials, joining training sessions and by consistently practice speaking. If you are married, be consistent to love your partner. There is a famous adage, success does not happen overnight. That’s true very true, it needs consistency.

I tried the following and I still do this:-

  1. Write down who you want to become? (Example: I want to be early riser, I want to be committed to my goal, I want to be a person who keep up my words and so on)
  2. Determine what you need to do… to become that person?

Now start practicing it every day and be consistent in doing what you have planned to do so.

Being consistent develops confidence. If you are confident, there is going to be nothing that stops you from reaching your goals. Don’t you agree with me? What do you do at the time of frustration? Please share your thoughts with us.

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How uninstalling Facebook app saved my time?

From the title, you could understand what my post is about.  I did uninstall Facebook app from my phone and I discovered I am not addicted to it, yet I realized I had wasted my time just by scrolling up and down. Whenever a question raised in my mind that if I am over using the app?, I used to answer, “Not at all, I am just filling a gap by just going over some articles, news and little updates about my friends post”. I also thought it is needed for me that I am away from hometown.  I wouldn’t blame Facebook, I blame myself for overusing it. I am trying to take 100% responsibility for what I do and what I don’t do and how I respond to what’s done to me. This is one of the favorite tips I learned from Darren Hardy, the best selling author, keynote speaker and former publisher of Success Magazine and he said the below:-

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It’s very true and once you take charge in what you do and don’t do, You will see the change in how your life moves ahead.

Coming to the question how Facebook was taking my time, I will depict how I was using it in a day. I wake up in the morning and I got into this new habit of lying in the bed for some time after the alarm goes, did you guess why this new habit?,yes, you are right! I open the Facebook and see the news feed may be for 5 to 10 mins that’s all. It’s not a big deal right. My day begins, I freshen up, workout, meditate and eat my breakfast. I used to eat my breakfast in less than 10 mins which is increased to 20 mins because I go through the news feed in Facebook. Yet I thought what’s a big deal, I am just keeping myself company, what’s wrong in it. Once I am done with my breakfast, I start doing my school assignments and while I am doing my assignments, every 10 mins I check my Facebook page and the reason is to just take a break from tedious assignments. This time I thought even more and told myself, “Really??? Are you kidding me? Break every 10 mins and you call it break from the tedious task? Now that’s big no-no”. I used to finish my work in 4 hours however lately, I see that I take the whole day to finish my daily assignments. This goes on for the whole day until I fall asleep even while eating my lunch and sometimes during dinner when I am not eating dinner with my family. I check Facebook page even while I am reading novels. The only time I wasn’t checking Facebook was during meditation and when I am asleep.

I was able to see this difference because I started being online in Facebook from last 2 months. That does not mean I was not an active Facebook user before, until last 2 months, I used to check my Facebook page, however never to this level. There were days that I have not logged into Facebook. I clearly see the change now and how much time I spent in Facebook and you wouldn’t believe me if I said it’s almost 4 hours in a day. Yesterday, I decided to uninstall the app from phone and set up a time to check my Facebook page only at the end of the day for 10 to 15 mins.  I did that yesterday and it continued today as well. I am not addicted to it and it did not make me go crazy either; I am happy that I am able to get my things done much quicker and I did save 4 hours of time for my productive tasks.

You may be thinking that those bits of 5 minutes that you take to check your Facebook page do no harm in your productivity, you are wrong! If you track those little bits of 5 minutes, you will see hours added up at the end of the day. You could actually use those little bits of 5 minutes to take break from screen time by doing eye exercise, a quick walk, a quick call to your mom or your loved ones, if you are someone who is in front of computer for long hours that’s required by your job, then you should probably move out of your desk in those 5 minutes or do some exercise that relaxes your mind and body than logging onto Facebook.

Nothing against Facebook, I agree it does help people stay connected and offers much more fun. In fact, I ❤ Facebook.

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Manage your usage, that’s all it takes. ☺

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What happens to you after your ‘Success’?

If you attain wealth, power, position, honor, some goal in your life or the like, all these are termed as a success. Success can be a fame or triumph.  Every self-determined person has one or the other goals to achieve in his life. Even if you are not a self-determined person, yet deep within yourself, you long for success. Some take their steps towards success, some procrastinate their steps. Let’s assume you have become successful and reached the eyes of the world wherein people started to look up for you. Nothing can be stopped once your success draws attention, there are people who make money just by drilling your life and its details. What you say, what you write, what you breathe, everything will be in someone’s gossip, article, news, Facebook post, tweet and so on. This is a huge level of success attention from public. What if its small level of success, like a success that you get from scoring ‘A’ grade in school, like a success that you clean up your neighborhood, like a success that you provide a solution to a problem at work or at home etc., in that case, your family, your friends, your team, your neighbor which is a small group of people looking up for you.

Now, what happens to you after your success?

I’m so interested to write about one of the detail which is noticed after success. Did you guess???

Let me say it, it’s your Habits. Yes, your habits will be questioned. Right from how you start a day and how you end the day. How do you wake up? Do you keep an alarm? Do you keep alarm once, twice or thrice? Do you ever snooze alarm? What is your morning routine?  People will be curious to know what habits you inculcate within that helped you become successful. They would want to do exactly the same what you do, thinking they will be successful too. Now that’s a big responsibility isn’t it? Unfortunately, habit is something that is developed over a time period. It’s a behavior pattern acquired by you for a long time that you don’t take the effort to put it in your schedule. Say for example, Do you block your calendar for 2 mins to brush your teeth? No, it’s your habit that was developed since your childhood. Likewise, you would have acquired many habits in your life like brushing twice daily, bathing, praying before meal, washing your hands before eating, flushing the toilet after use, throw waste in the bin, being punctual to a conference call, etc. Habit is not an instant thing to happen after you became successful.

Habits = Training your mind. It’s a saying that ‘Motivation gets you started & HABIT is what keeps you going’.

With or without your permission, the world gains visibility to your habits. You cannot stop that. It is essential that your habits are good. People would not appreciate if your habit is smoking, or stalking people, or gossiping, etc. You cannot set a wrong example. That’s the type of responsibility you carry. You could say, you don’t care what others think, but trust me you will be destroyed quickly, very quickly, in a little time even before you realize it. Again, this will happen with or without your knowledge.

No one is perfect in this world. You may not be able to control the world looking at your habits or zooming your life, however, cultivating good habits are the right thing to do and it’s definitely in your control. If the number of your good habits out beat your fewer bad habits, you are safe.

Recently I saw an interview by Google’s CEO Sundar Pichai and he had to discuss what was his school grade, if he was a good guy at school, his favorite sport, and from his interview, people got to know he has 20-30 mobile phones, his background, his childhood and so on.

Same time, Facebook CEO, Mark Zuckerberg shares his habit of reading books. He even posted the list of books he read in the year 2015 and his plans to read a new book every other week.

For some people, their habits will be questioned or interviewed,  some people share it on their own.We can write more about habits, how our mind is trained to it, good habits, bad habits, and so on. There are many self-help books, articles, videos available to help you develop good habits. I have read in multiple books that if you could practice a routine for 21 – 30 days, it becomes your habit. Let me share my personal experience, I practice yoga and meditation but was never consistent for 9 years since I started. I do it for 2 weeks then take a break and repeat the same, it was going on like this until 2013. In the year 2014, this ‘21 days’ mantra worked for me to practice yoga and meditation, since then I don’t remember taking a break from it or missing it except if I had intentions to do it. I realized it while writing this post that probably it has become my habit 🙂 I have many other examples to share, but but but…I am exceeding my goal of keeping my post short. I may write about my transformation in a separate post.

Best to think that it is never too late to start adapting to good habits and alternate your bad habits with good ones. Look for a motivation and make the HABIT to keep going.

#101 Tip :- Rather than making yearly resolution, start making monthly resolutions and evaluate it often. Let me know if it worked for you or if you tried something else.

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#8 A trick to make you feel good good

Employee: Submits the difficult task within critical deadline.

Manager: No reaction.

Annie: Annie invites her friend Sheila for the dinner party.

Sheila: Sheila attends the party, enjoys the dinner and leaves.

Well, what do you think about this? It doesn’t look good, right? Manager and Sheila are missing something.

You ask for help from your neighbor and you do not take an effort to acknowledge it, do you think your neighbor is going to help you again?

Annie is not going to have a nice feel about Sheila not acknowledging her friend about the efforts she put for the dinner party.

The employee is not going to be motivated next time for a task from that manager who does not acknowledge his work.

Why am I talking about acknowledgment? Today my sister had been to her friend’s place for a birthday party and she returned home with a gift bag. I asked her why is that whenever there is a get-together or birthday party, there is a return gift. Why do they waste money? I’m sure they are already spending money for the party. Then why all this formalities? She replied that ‘this a way of acknowledgment to let me know that she appreciated my presence in the party’. Wow, that’s right.

That’s how my today’s thought stirred around acknowledgment. I started thinking how many acknowledgments I received at work, from family, friends etc. Likewise, I do take many efforts to acknowledge others.  How much special I felt about it <3. It is both ways when I received acknowledgments as well as when I acknowledged others, I feel so good about it ^^’.

There was an instance when one of my junior team members worked on a task with me at a crucial deadline and we did it successfully. Once the work is complete, I received appreciation from our managers as I was directly assigned to that task. I walked up to him and appreciated his hard work and announced to our team members about his hard work and he received a huge applaud from all. I wanted his work to be recognized and appreciated. To my surprise, he did not say anything, he was silent and returned to his work. I felt embarrassed thinking I did something wrong. Days passed, he came to my desk one day and told me that he did not know how to react when he was appreciated as no one had ever appreciated him like that. He was overwhelmed and did not know what to say. Not knowing how to react for an appreciation made him think about it a lot and it took him days to understand it. He told me that he is now able to receive what I had done and it did help him a lot. I knew that day that acknowledgment definitely makes a positive impact in a person. It is a good thing to offer and we should not shy away from that.

We try ways to make people feel good and special. A simple acknowledgment like a gift, thank you card, appreciation letter, acknowledgment email, a big smile:-D etc. does that trick of making you and the others  feel good good ❤

Don’t forget the trick next time 🙂

#6 Buy or compromise???

Lately, my mind is fluctuating between 2 thoughts :- one. wanting to buy; two. compromise. I’m sure the moment you read this, most of you must be saying that learn to feel content with what you have than to buy. But my question here is how long should I keep compromising on my needs. ‘Need’, isn’t that a major term.

Have you heard about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs? There you can see below about that theory.

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  1. Biological and Physiological needs – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.
  2. Safety needs – protection from elements, security, order, law, stability, freedom from fear.
  3. Love and belongingness needs – friendship, intimacy, affection and love, – from work group, family, friends, and romantic relationships.
  4. Esteem needs – achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, self-respect, and respect from others.
  5. Self-Actualization needs – realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences.

(Cited: http://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html)

Don’t you agree with me that basic needs or the deficit of needs is the main motivation for humans?

According to Maslow, he came up with this theory for peoples’ motivation and how they are motivated based on their needs and what levels do they reach in terms of needs. He believed that people possess a set of motivation for rewards or unconscious desires. He said that when a person is fulfilled with one need, he seeks to fulfill his next need. That’s what his hierarchy of needs talks about. When there is a need we tend to make unconscious desire.

Necessity plays a role. If there is a need we prepare and make arrangements for it.

Likewise, if you do not want more or wish for more, how would you work towards that reason? Is it not called settling down when you just feel content with what we have? How would you keep moving up in the ladder, when you do not want to get promoted and just feel content with your current position?

Only if you wish for buying a new car, you will start working on a plan to buy that new car. A plan like improving your budget, savings, etc.

Don’t we advise people, do what you like and firm with what you need. So compromising your need is not a good suggestion, keeping in mind that each situation is different and you alone could analyze your situation and make up your mind.

Self-actualization and realization must be present when we desire for something. There is nothing wrong in wanting to buy if I do not have it. There is nothing wrong in improvising what you have, it’s like cope up with the present. Having a mobile phone is a basic necessity in this century, mostly, you cannot say I have a landline, I do not need a mobile phone. Well, you cannot carry a landline in your pocket. Period. It’s about improvising and cope up with the world and the needs.

Back to my questions, wanting to buy or compromise. To help my mind with these questions, I have decided to use a simple trick. I will ask myself, ‘do I have it already? & what is the need?’

Let me finish it with my quote 🙂

Desires are not wrong, when the needs are right.

#1 The nerd’s guide to evolve!

The Cartographers (the map makers) were following some trick in earlier days and did you know that they insert fake places on their map?  Do you know why?

Because when that fake place shows up in another person’s map, he will be caught stealing the map.

Well this is one of the interesting old facts I got to know today and I will let you know in this blog from where I learned this. The main context of this post is about community.

My friend and I was walking the walk this evening and we were discussing about how do we keep learning, keep updating our knowledge base in mind. How is it possible if you are alone? And when we were deeply sailing into our conversation we reached a point where I was asking her, should we not be around with people like how we want to be? Like if you want to be a leader, think like a leader. Well wait! Do you all of sudden start thinking like a leader? No, for the start, you will look at your hero or an inspired leader to try their footsteps, unlike the people who are born with the talent of being a leader. She immediately agreed to me saying, true, that’s one of the ways that people improve a lot in career and even life. People become more smart hanging out with smart people. We keep evolving.

No wonder why people say avoid groups which creates negative environment. Isn’t that true?

Besides the fact that the major influence of improving or updating yourself is self-interest and strong determination, spending time with leaders, mentors, like-minded people, listening to motivators, speakers, all these gives you more window to evolve.

It was such a coincidence that I found this inspiring TED talk by John Green, the author of “The Fault in Our Stars” and “Paper Towns”.  He speaks about community and the several ways to join communities that interests you. You won’t be alone again 🙂 He mentions in this speech about that interesting trick maintained by the cartographers in earlier days.

Leave your ideas of evolving in comments, would be glad to know more.